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Gandhi's Yoga:
Part II - The Vow of Celibacy
Dr. Chand Prakash Mehra
Gandhiji said, 'It is better to enjoy through the body than to be enjoying
the thought of it. It is good to disapprove of sensual desires as soon
as they arise in the mind and try to keep them down, but if, for want
of physical enjoyment, the mind wallows in thoughts of enjoyment, then
it is legitimate to satisfy the hunger of the body. About this I have
no doubt. Sex urge is a fine and noble thing. There is nothing to be ashamed
of in it, but it is meant only for the act of creation.'(1)
Gandhiji was against the use of contraceptives for birth control. He
believed in self-restraint of animal passion and in cohabiting only when
reproduction or birth of a child is desired. He opined that brahmacharya
means control of senses in thought, word, and deed and that is the way
of life which leads to God.
Gandhiji took the vow of brahmacharya (celibacy) in 1906 at the age of
thirty six years, after full discussion and deliberation. He had not shared
his thoughts with his wife until then, but only consulted her at the time
of taking the vow. She had no objection, but he had great difficulty in
making the final resolve. He had not the necessary strength. How was he
to control his passions? The elimination of carnal relationship with one's
wife seemed then a strange thing. But he launched forth with faith in
the sustaining power of God. It is like walking on the sword's edge and
he saw in every moment the necessity for eternal vigilance.
What is brahmacharya? It is the way of life which leads us to Brahma.
It includes full control over the process of reproduction. The control
must be in thought, word, and deed. If the thought is not under control,
the other two have no value. For one whose thought is under control, the
other is mere child's play.
Gandhiji said, 'It appears to me that even the true aspirant does not
need the above-mentioned restraints. Brahmacharya is not a virtue that
can be cultivated by outward restraints. He who runs away from a necessary
contact with a woman does not understand the full meaning of brahmacharya.
However attractive a woman may be, her attraction will produce no effect
on the man without the urge.'
He further stated, 'I know from my own experience, that, as long as I
looked upon my wife carnally, we had no real understanding. Our love did
not reach a high plane. There was affection between us always, but we
came closer and closer the more we, rather I, became restrained. There
never was any want of restraint on the part of my wife. Very often she
would show restraint, but she rarely resisted me, although she showed
disinclination very often. All the time I wanted carnal pleasure, I could
not serve her. The moment I bade goodbye to a life of carnal pleasure,
our whole relationship became spiritual. Lust died and love reigned instead.'
Control of the palate is the first essential in the observation of the
vow. Gandhiji found that complete control of the palate made the observance
very easy and so he started dietetic experiments. As a result, he observed
that a brahmachari should be limited to simple spice less, and if possible
uncooked foods. The brahmachari should take his evening meal before sunset;
fruit and nuts were his ideal food. He found milk to be an aphrodisiac
and advised people to avoid milk as far as possible.
As an external aid to brahmacharya, fasting is as necessary as selection
and restriction in diet. So overpowering are the senses that they can
be kept under control only when they are completely hedged in on all sides,
from above and from beneath. It is common knowledge that the senses are
powerless without food, and so fasting undertaken with a view to control
of the senses is, he felt, very helpful.
Gandhiji said," 'But the path of purification is hard and steep.
To attain perfect purity, one has to become absolutely passion-free in
thought, speech and action; to rise above the opposing currents of love
and hatred, attachment and repulsion. I know that I have not in me as
yet, that triple purity, in spite of constant, ceaseless striving for
it. That is why the world's praise fails to move me; indeed, it very often
stings me. To conquer the subtle passions seems to me harder by far than
the physical conquest of the world by the force of arms.' Later on, when
Gandhiji returned to India, he realised that such brahmacharya was impossible
to attain by mere human effort. Until then he was under the illusion that
a mere diet of fresh fruits and nuts would enable him to maintain celibacy.
'Those who desire to observe brahmacharya with a view to realising God
need not despair, provided their faith in God is equal to their confidence
in their own effort. Therefore His name and His grace are the last resources
of the aspirant after moksha. This truth came to me only after my return
to India.'
'Divine knowledge is not borrowed from books. It has to be realised in
oneself. Books are at best an aid, often even a hindrance.' Thus said
Gandhiji.
Gandhiji recommended cold water hip bath for control of passion and night
falls. Pandit Shri Pad Damodar Satvelekar had mentioned in one of his
letters to Gandhiji (Sabarmati Gandhi Sangrah) that semen discharged because
of masturbation or night falls could be absorbed by rubbing at the eyebrow
centre or on the chest where both ribs meet.
Gandhiji said, 'Brahmacharya is such only if it persists under all conditions
and in the face of every possible temptation. If a beautiful woman approaches
the marble statue of a man, it will not be affected in the least. A brahmachari
is one who reacts in a similar situation in the same way as marble does.'(2)
'You argue that the sight and the company of woman have been found to
be inimical to self-restraint and are therefore to be avoided. This argument
is fallacious. Brahmacharya hardly deserves the name if it can be observed
only by avoiding the company of women, even when such company is kept
with a view to serve. It amounts to physical renunciation un-backed by
the essential mental detachment, and lets us down in critical times.'
'I want to test, enlarge and revise the current definition of brahmacharya,
in the light of my observation, study and experience. Therefore, whenever
an opportunity presents itself I do not evade it or run away from it.
On the contrary, I deem it my duty, dharma, to meet it squarely in the
face and find out where it leads to and where I stand.'
'To avoid the contact of a woman or to run away from it out of fear,
I regard as unbecoming of an aspirant after true brahmacharya. I have
never tried to cultivate or seek sex contact for carnal satisfaction.
I do not claim to have completely eradicated the sex feeling in me. But
it is my claim that I keep it under control.'
Gandhiji experimented with different techniques which help in observing
celibacy.(3) He allowed women inmates of his ashram to sleep with him
on the same bed and under the same cover, just to test whether it aroused
any passion in him or in the woman.
Gandhiji felt more at home in dealing with the special problems which
belong to womankind. He apotheosised womankind; so much so that he finally
came to the conclusion that progress in civilisation depended upon the
introduction into it of a large measure of the love and self-sacrifice
which woman, the mother of man, best represented in her own person.
Women, for their part, drew readily near him, for they instinctively
recognised in him one of their own kind. Their intimate association helped
to strengthen those elements of non-violence of which he held them to
be natural representatives; while such occasions were also utilised by
him for examining how far his own identification had become complete.
The feminine attitude developed as an important trait in his character
ever since he began his practice of brahmacharya and as the identification
was never complete, the desire to imagine how far it had advanced at any
point of time remained permanently with him.
This spiritual necessity of association with woman and of constant self-examination
by means of a technique reminiscent of tantra was, however, not appreciated
by some of Gandhiji's closest associates, who even left him because of
it. Gandhiji used to sleep with young women on the same bed, not for satisfaction
of any animal passion, but for valid moral reasons; for establishing brahmacharya.
His close associates were of the opinion that he was suffering from a
sense of self-delusion in regard to his relation with the opposite sex.
After he asked women to share his bed and even the cover he used, he then
tried to ascertain if even the least trace of sensual feeling had been
evoked in himself or his companion (4). In the opinion of Gandhiji this
was merely an experiment or self-examination to test his establishment
in brahmacharya.
Gandhiji did not call that brahmacharya, which means not to touch a woman.
In his opinion, brahmacharya is that thought and practice which puts you
in touch with the infinite and takes you into His presence. He tried to
reach that state and in accordance with his belief, and he had made substantial
progress in that direction.
He said his wife ceased to be an instrument of lust after he took his
vow of brahmacharya, she ceased to be that when she lay with him naked
as his sister. If she and he were not lustfully agitated in their minds
and bodies, the contact raised both of them.
The woman inmates of his ashram used to hold Gandhiji tightly clasped
to their bodies (5) in cold weather or whenever his blood circulation
became poor because of his old age, in order to give him the warmth of
their youthful bodies. This practice is known as 'gorocomy'.
Gandhiji said, 'It is wrong to call me an ascetic. The ideals that regulate
my life are presented for acceptance by mankind in general; I have arrived
at them by gradual evolution. Every step was thought out, well considered,
and taken with the greatest deliberation. Both my continence and non-violence
were derived from personal experience and became necessary in response
to the calls of public duty. I claim to be no more than average with less
than average ability. Nor can I claim any special merit for such non-violence
or continence as I have been able to reach with laborious research.'
1. An Autobiography, M.K. Gandhi, Navajivan Publishing House,
Ahmedabad.
2. All Men are Brothers, Life and Thoughts of Mahatma Gandhi as told in
his own words, UNESCO Paris.
3. My Days With Gandhi, Nirmal Kumar Bose, Calcutta.
4. Ibid.
5. Ibid.
(Courtesy : 'Yoga Today', London)
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